The Reverse

I’m deliberately doing this in reverse…no way, you’re kidding me?

No, not kidding at all. Throughout your life you will have seen this a million times but not given it any thought. It is a perfect example of how the universe works to perfection. Wherever you are at in your life you will attract the exact circumstance to enable you to learn whatever it is you require on your journey. Totally free will to do as you wish, but with the added clause of ‘going’ in a certain direction. It is like going for a trip to the zoo. You know it’s in the city, it will probably take a couple of hours to get there, and there will be animals and people all over the place. But….you will have absolutely no idea whether you’ll get a flat tyre on the way, meet a tall, dark handsome stranger, not make it there at all because you’ve been sidetracked, (probably by a tall, dark and handsome stranger), and so on. So you had great intentions and embarked on a journey that to all intents and purposes was going where you wanted it to go.

Now I point out the above to show you that during our life it is not consciously really under our control. Yes, you can choose a course but within you, you will attract exactly what you need. A flat tyre? Yes, a flat tyre can do amazing things. Stop you from being in an accident further down the road, delay your journey enough that so when you are nearly there you see a thunderstorm about to drown the zoo out, (and if you had gotten there earlier you would be caught in a miserable, sodden, animals hiding in their pens from the storm type situation), that would be remembered for all the wrong reasons.

And this brings me to the emotional side of your life. Everything we do or are involved in brings an emotional response, ie. flat tyre = grrrr! , day at the zoo (with no storm) = yayyy! So you can see a pattern here of what our responses here are under different circumstances. Now some people don’t go grrrr when they get a flat tyre. They go ‘oh shoot!’ and get on with changing the tyre. They do not have a problem with patience or the world is out to get them by doing this to them. They take it in their stride and move on. But the person that gets all worked up, angry and frustrated, thinks the world is out to get them, is ‘creating’ exactly what they need. Experiencing the ‘exact’ thing that they think they don’t want, so that the more it is a problem, the more it is in their face. It is in fact the total REVERSE of what they think they want. Yes, they have attracted this until gradually they learn and understand that what they are doing is not working, it is a constant upset, and they no longer wish to do it this way any longer. Usually by this stage they are emotionally exhausted. Angry and frustrated because they feel the world is out to get them.

The usual thing that everyone will recognise as a REVERSE is that usual old friend called ‘love’. It is the most incredible teaching tool there is. I was brought up in such a way to think that no one loved me, I was not lovable and so I kept that failing within myself. But what I did do was any time I was in a relationship I would counteract this feeling by doing the REVERSE. I would smother my partner with so much love that they couldn’t possibly not love me. And then wondered why they pulled away. And I blamed them totally. How could it be possible that they didn’t want love. I wanted it all the time, why wouldn’t they want love. Now of course where they have been has been to understand that I was actually smothering them with my fear…of my not wanting to be rejected…and creating that exact scenario. Absolutely perfect! So that I may learn that I was actually doing the REVERSE and pushing them away. Very conditional was my love, doing something and expecting something in return.

So gradually our lives begin to change. We don’t want to do it this way anymore because it is painful, draining and we will also notice that this affects the people around us also. Usually to such a degree that these people, (friends, partners etc), will spend less and less time with us because of the anger or frustration that is shown. They feel this and don’t want to be a part of that, they have enough problems of their own without feeling drained because of what they feel coming from within the other person. Here is another point to remember, these people will attract someone that will push the exact button to start the anger, frustration etc. More perfection! The reality is each and every time you feel upset, angry or frustrated with someone or something…ask yourself why…what is it that is actually happening…how do you feel…and more to the point, if you go deep enough, you will understand what is making you unhappy, and once you understand the reason, you will realise what is causing it, and let it go. If you can truthfully look inside and understand your truth in why something is affecting you, then your awareness has just been raised and you begin to look at yourself a lot differently. It’s a gradual process which can still push buttons…until we understand.

So the journey goes on, touching on things that affect us, realisation of those things and to move past those into a happier place by not allowing these things to create the way we used to feel. It’s called wisdom. And it cannot be obtained in any other way but by doing it, understanding it, and then integrating it into our lives. The deeper, more painful the lesson, the greater the wisdom. If you are just shown that if you put your hand in the fire that you will get hurt, yes, you take that on board. But if you actually stick your hand in the fire, everything changes, and takes on a whole new meaning. Lessons are there for our balance. Many the lesson that is wonderful that we always keep in our hearts because of the beauty that we are shown by them. The birth of a child, the celebration of an achievement, the love of another. They are all there to show balance and bring understanding to such a degree that we may all give from that place. And those around us feel us giving from that place, so in turn understand what that means to be in that place. It’s all a journey for you, just for you, to understand to such a degree that if anything does happen to you, accept it for what it may mean to you, try to understand what it means for you, integrate it, and let it go.

I’ve reached a place, (finally, yes I’m a male and can be a ‘little’ obstinate at times but that’s what I attract!), where I can see myself doing something that I KNOW is not the right thing to do…and I do it anyway…the REVERSE…and I will have a little laugh, acknowledge it, tell myself I know better now, let it go and move on.
A beautiful journey when you finally realise that everything, and I mean everything, is going exactly how it should, to help you, allow you to understand and more lovingly integrate it into who you are. That beautiful, loving creature that is, in itself, an integral part of an amazingly wonderful creation that is this universe and all that belongs in it.